They come from the same parents but are so different, I think.
I am teaching my oldest child to drive and ask how she feels about it. There is a silence, then a sigh:
– I just hate the clutch!
She likes to do everything at her own slow pace. She wants to drive on private roads long enough to feel confident about entering public traffic. She tends to avoid roundabouts and prefers quiet gravel roads. But whatever she has learnt she will remember. There will be no big surprises for her in how to handle the car.
My second oldest is different. Both the teacher and the student are close to losing their tempers. We are too similar. His thoughts are not where they should be. When he is entering a roundabout, I need to slam on the brakes to avoid collision. He says there was no car. I point at the car that had right of way and ask:
– Hey, what’s that? Not a car?
We both blow up. Then we have car services and preach forgiveness to each other. He gets his license in due time.
My third oldest has an excellent start. I marvel at her confidence behind the wheel. But there are times when social pressure builds up.
– Help, that guy is tailgating me! I’m sure he’s annoyed because of the student driver sign.
I try to calm her down and tell her that the same traffic rules apply to all people, and that everybody is entitled to his or her own place on the road.
The official driver’s test is terrible. She fails more than once because she is so nervous.
– You know, that guy looks at me in such a funny way. Should I wear different clothes, so I would look older?
When she can finally do the test with a different person, she feels less nervous and gets her license.
For me, the times I have spent teaching my kids to drive have been lessons in life. I have seen the uniqueness of God’s creation. I have found that some children are more comfortable with critical feedback than some others. One is a realist, another a dreamer. They all have their talents and shortcomings, just as I do.
My task is to love them as the kind of persons they are, to support and guide them in my own small way. I am happy about the love we feel for each other and the knowledge that we are heading toward the same destination in heaven. There are moments when I have flashes of understanding that our mutual love is not merely love between family members. It is love from heaven.
Text: Harri Vähäjylkkä
Translation: Sirkka-Liisa Leinonen
You will find the original Finnish blog post here.
Monet suunnitelmat ovat tänä poikkeuksellisena keväänä muuttuneet. Muun muassa perhejuhlien järjestelyjä on pitänyt miettiä uudelleen. Tämä on koskenut myös avioliittoon vihkimisiä. Nyt vihkimisiä on toimitettu niin, että koolla on ollut vain joitakin läheisiä, ja muu juhlaväki on seurannut tilaisuutta ehkä virtuaalisesti. Hääjuhlia on jouduttu siirtämään myöhäisempiin ajankohtiin. Jotkut hääparit ovat siirtäneet tämän vuoksi myös avioitumistaan.